• Why you may lose friends and family on the road to success

    It’s an unfortunate truth but here’s the reality:

    You will lose some people who are close to you on your journey towards becoming an entrepreneur.

    Well why is that, you ask?

    Reason #1: People Don’t Understand Your “Why”

    We as entrepreneurs are definitely wired a bit differently.

    Sometimes those in your direct circle just WILL NOT understand why you want to do this. Why would you want to quit your job?

    You’re going work an extra 20 – 30 hours a week on top of your day job to get your business started?

    Why would you choose working on your business over spending time with us?

    Unfortunately most people are so conditioned to things that are the “norm”. You go to University, you get a job and you work in that job or industry until you’re financially comfortable enough to retire. Oh, and don’t forget about that good old mortgage!

    They can’t comprehend why you need to be different, and live differently.

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    Reason #2: You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with

    Motivational speaker Jim Rohn famously said that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with.

    When it comes to relationships, we are greatly influenced — whether we like it or not — by those closest to us. It affects our way of thinking, our self-esteem, and our decisions.

    It’s quite likely that your previous or existing social circle do not reflect the values, attitudes and aspirations of the person that you’re aiming to become.

    As a result, they’ll becoming disillusioned with your desire for change, and you’ll become increasingly aware of their negative influence on you. As we’ll see in Reason #4 they may even attempt to hold you back.

    You must remove their negative influence from your life.

    Of course, there’s a lot of truth in the old saying “Birds of a feather, flock together”.

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    Reason #3: They Are Jealous

    I know, I know, this one sounds a little crazy!

    But it’s true.

    There are those that will see what you’re doing; taking control of your own life, building your dream, throwing off the shackles and being a bit of a “rebel”.

    They will secretly want what you have, but aren’t willing to give up their comfortable life or put in the work to get there.

    “Why can’t you get a REAL job like everyone else?!”

    So they will envy you, and some may even try to pull you back down to their level. Your success (whether you like it or not) makes them insecure because they realise that they too could have taken the action necessary to reach their goals.

    They’ll jump on your failures. They will brush off your successes. Trust me, I’ve experienced it.

    These are signs that you are moving in the right direction – use them as motivation, and keep on going.

    Reason #4: People will try to hold you back

    Everybody has this thing called a “comfort zone”.

    Whenever we’re in this comfort zone we feel unchallenged, happy and content.

    As entrepreneurs we know that the only way to achieve something we’ve never achieved, is to do something we’ve never done.

    New experiences are scary, and cause us to venture outside of what we consider comfortable in order to grow and reach our goals.

    The vast majority of people live well within their comfort zone – and the size of your comfort zone is tied directly into your income and success.

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    When friends and family see you expanding your comfort zone and reaching new levels of success it makes them question why they didn’t do it themselves.

    It’s this insecurity that causes other people to try and hold you back. They don’t want to see you succeed because it exposes a deep seated truth – they they could have done it themselves.

    Reason #5: People Won’t Be Supportive of Your Choices.

    This is a BIG one.

    It often goes a long with the first reason. It’s hard for family & friends to offer support when the don’t understand your reasons for doing this.

    “Why can’t you get a REAL job like everyone else?!”

    “Aren’t you home all day? Can’t you just <insert random errand> for me?”

    When your friends aren’t supportive, as much as it hurts, you need to surround yourself with other people who will show you that support.

    When your family isn’t supportive, it can often cause unneccesary stress, which is the LAST thing you need when starting a business.

    So whether it’s your choice or theirs, the gap between you will widen, and you may eventually risk drifting apart.

    Communicate with your family and friends and try to help them to understand the sacrifices that you’ve made.

    So is there anything that you’d like to add or change on this list?

    Share YOUR own experiences about becoming an entrepreneur in the comments below.

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